(This post is from sometime around November of last year, and I saved it for editing and then forgot about it. Going back and reading it, though, I think it's an important note about how we can form relationships with our stepchildren; so I'm sharing it with all of you now. Enjoy!) My stepson begged … Continue reading Stepfamily Traditions
Unless you're a stepparent who was already in the picture during divorce proceedings, you probably didn't have any say in how the custody arrangement played out - you're just stuck dealing with whatever your significant other agreed to. The trouble is that this arrangement will have a huge impact on your life...unless an opportunity comes … Continue reading What’s in a Custody Agreement?
Like many stepmothers, I’m sure, I’ve turned to the Internet for advice on stepparenting. There are a variety of articles on the subject out there; but the variety I come across more than any other is the “boundaries” article: that is, the list of boundaries that stepmoms should NEVER CROSS EVER UNDER PENALTY OF LOSING … Continue reading Momland and Steptopia: the One Boundary that (Step)Parents Shouldn’t Cross
My relationship with Max up until the custody change had been a series of snapshots. One weekend he was crawling; two weekends later he was standing; the next time I saw him he had taken his first steps. Between visits he would decide that he loved peas – the very next time I tried to … Continue reading How a Student Dictionary Almost Prompted the Sex Talk with an Eight-Year-Old
Chris and I got married a little over a year after his divorce was finalized; we probably should have waited a little longer, because I’m not sure he was entirely over it yet. The first year or so of our marriage I constantly had to remind him that I wasn’t Samantha (he even called me … Continue reading Mistaken “Mom”-dentity: Tips for the Stepmom who is Mistaken for Mom
There is a problem in our society with limited, bilateral thinking. People assume that children have a mom, a dad, and...nope, that's it. There is no room for another kind of family. So I took Max to the dentist yesterday. His dentist is pretty cool; there are plastic animals and a fish tank and video … Continue reading Add some blanks!
Many people are intimately familiar with the concept of the glass ceiling – it’s a phenomenon that occurs when women are in roles traditionally occupied by men, where they find an invisible barrier between themselves and those top-level executive positions. (So, we’re talking about not only CEOs, but doctors, attorneys, principals/school administration, finance experts, etc.) … Continue reading My Experience with the Glass Escalator
There is a lot out there on what moms have to deal with in terms of conflicting ways of parenting. Babies should be breastfed, but it's too "gross" for innocent bystanders to handle so infants can't eat around other people. Kids shouldn't play so many video games or watch so much TV, they should go … Continue reading The Stepmom Balancing Act
There are things that change when you go from being a “weekend” stepmom to an “almost all the time” stepmom. Here are a few that I’ve noticed: My stepkid knows where things are and how to get what he needs in our house. Before I had to pull things down off of shelves for him; … Continue reading 5 Things That Have Changed Since Becoming a “Full Custody” Stepmom