What’s in a Custody Agreement?

Unless you're a stepparent who was already in the picture during divorce proceedings, you probably didn't have any say in how the custody arrangement played out - you're just stuck dealing with whatever your significant other agreed to.  The trouble is that this arrangement will have a huge impact on your life...unless an opportunity comes … Continue reading What’s in a Custody Agreement?

Momland and Steptopia: the One Boundary that (Step)Parents Shouldn’t Cross

Like many stepmothers, I’m sure, I’ve turned to the Internet for advice on stepparenting.  There are a variety of articles on the subject out there; but the variety I come across more than any other is the “boundaries” article: that is, the list of boundaries that stepmoms should NEVER CROSS EVER UNDER PENALTY OF LOSING … Continue reading Momland and Steptopia: the One Boundary that (Step)Parents Shouldn’t Cross

How a Student Dictionary Almost Prompted the Sex Talk with an Eight-Year-Old

My relationship with Max up until the custody change had been a series of snapshots.  One weekend he was crawling; two weekends later he was standing; the next time I saw him he had taken his first steps. Between visits he would decide that he loved peas – the very next time I tried to … Continue reading How a Student Dictionary Almost Prompted the Sex Talk with an Eight-Year-Old

Mistaken “Mom”-dentity: Tips for the Stepmom who is Mistaken for Mom

Chris and I got married a little over a year after his divorce was finalized; we probably should have waited a little longer, because I’m not sure he was entirely over it yet.  The first year or so of our marriage I constantly had to remind him that I wasn’t Samantha (he even called me … Continue reading Mistaken “Mom”-dentity: Tips for the Stepmom who is Mistaken for Mom

My Experience with the Glass Escalator

Many people are intimately familiar with the concept of the glass ceiling – it’s a phenomenon that occurs when women are in roles traditionally occupied by men, where they find an invisible barrier between themselves and those top-level executive positions.  (So, we’re talking about not only CEOs, but doctors, attorneys, principals/school administration, finance experts, etc.)  … Continue reading My Experience with the Glass Escalator

5 Things That Have Changed Since Becoming a “Full Custody” Stepmom

There are things that change when you go from being a “weekend” stepmom to an “almost all the time” stepmom.  Here are a few that I’ve noticed: My stepkid knows where things are and how to get what he needs in our house. Before I had to pull things down off of shelves for him; … Continue reading 5 Things That Have Changed Since Becoming a “Full Custody” Stepmom